Absolutely, my oldest daughter text messages, posts, and video shows. Yes, she is acutely alert to when it is “time” to renew the wardrobe with a few new pieces from the current fashion trends. Yes, your lady often rolls her little brown eyes at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the superior of her sharing list these days.
She assured me that she were “knocking” camp in any way and may choose to return, but if she does go back to get another year or three, it would not be considering that camp experience allows the woman’s to feel more traditional in any way. Her return is based on the conscious, singular (soul) choice to attend for the reason that she enJOYs the experience not because it is a “safe” spot for a be herself fully globally.
Yes, my little princess has her challenges, the girl’s snarky attitudes, her moments of self-doubt. Yes, the girl can sometimes be mean to the girl’s siblings, sassy to her parents, generally ornery. And yet, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true empathy for others that will serve but not just her, but the world at large, quite well.
I was truly blown away by her expression in deep wisdom that has taken many of us divorces, health maladies, and endless searches through different veins of the exterior world to figure out. What my own dear girl was announcing through the example of summertime camp–one of any feasible outer examples–probably resonates by means of most of us when looked at meticulously.
While we encouraged all of our children to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her that your decision to return is now entirely up to her. As that discussion ensued, I started to be almost mesmerized by the woman’s capacity to articulate the girl’s vantage point on the subject.
Not necessarily what I experienced several years back (alright twenty-six quite a few years back to be exact) in the tender age of fourteen. Recently my daughter and I were discussing no matter whether she would attend, once again, some three week all girls’ camp for the 6th summer in a row.
Indeed, a typical teen in so many ways, Aside from underneath the North Face coat and the Ugg boots, at the rear of the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent screen, and even beyond our intimate family discussions and distributed dinners, there lies a self-awareness and interior blossoming that seems unfathomable for any child her age.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, various with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit odd to her now, showing that while appreciative of the sentiment, she hoped that her fellow campers noticed free to be themselves over and above the activities in nature, public cabins, and family eating out. In short, everywhere.
While some parents drive status, monetary reward and upward societal movement with regard to children–none of which are unfavorable per say–beyond those outer pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own personal be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
Using a palpable gratitude for all for the opportunities and lessons learned from her previous camp experiences, she began to discuss her deeper thoughts on the following subject and beyond. This lady shared that while camp is touted as a destination to be fully and authentically yourself, create a sisterhood, increase a connection to nature, and explore your core throughout contemplation and solitude, the actual of it all is to come to understand that inner correlation is available anywhere, anytime, a great number importantly in the NOW.
Your lady went on to give the example of seeing quite plainly that she doesn’t need to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything different (a camper) to look authentic, open, connected and free. While she surely views camp as a true blessing, she knows that she’s enough just as she is with or without camp to remind her of that inside knowing.
We do not need to go someplace special or do something remarkable to live our own truth. Basically, freedom to be comfortable in your own skin should not be saved for places that we check out three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all means, always.